If you think about it there is a lot that can go wrong in a marriage. Divorce rates are at the highest point they’ve ever been. Something that people don’t often realize is that sex addiction can cause marital distress, and eventually divorce, if it isn’t treated. Here are three ways to find out if your spouse is addicted to sex, and how you can get them help if they are.
Disruption of Daily Life
This is usually the first sign that something is going wrong. Sex addicts have a hard time thinking and doing things that are non-sexual. If it seems to be a constant fascination for them, they may have a problem. If you find out they’ve been in trouble at work for either not doing their job, or have been involved in explicit situations, you may need to find them help.
Most people, after the first affair, simply leave the relationship. Others, however, stick with it and can forgive one mistake. If it happens more than once, you may want to examine the underlying causes. Sex addicts can’t get enough sex. If they feel like they can’t get enough from you, they’ll go elsewhere.
Sex isn’t the only way your spouse could be cheating on you. Sex addicts can exhibit their addiction through constant flirting, and infatuation with other women.
Constant Need for Sexual Intercourse
Sex addiction is exactly that, it’s an addiction. Like other addictions (specifically alcohol), the longer the addiction lasts, the more the person needs to satisfy their hunger for the substance or in this case, action.
If your spouse shows signs of needing sexual intercourse more and more often, you should talk with them about the reasons. Most men who are addicted to sex won’t be able to qualify it as an addiction, so you should be able to tell if they know what’s leading to the need for sex.
How to Get Your Spouse Help
So what should you do if you think your spouse is addicted to sex? The first thing most physiologists tell you to do is talk about it. Chances are if your spouse has cheated on you, this is the last thing you want to do. But if you’ve found other symptoms, you may be able to convince them that they have a problem and that they should seek help.
Once the problem is out in the open, it’s time to find help. There are a couple of options for you to try. The first is real world counseling. This is usually very embarrassing and is often very costly. Your spouse may very well balk at this option because of the cost or the humiliation of expressing their problem out in the open.
The second option is both cheaper and more anonymous. There are online courses that offer sex addiction counseling without even leaving the house. Not only does this eliminate the humiliation your spouse will feel admitting their problem to a complete stranger, but it is also up to 90% cheaper than traditional treatments. Dr. George Collins, who is a world famous expert on sex addiction, offers one of these online courses, called Neulia. It is just one of many options that can solve the problem and save you money.