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Can’t Escape Your Porn Addiction? 5 Ways to Break Out of the Rut.

It’s easy to feel trapped when you’re addicted to porn. A few hours or days of freedom ends with falling back into old habits, often leading to feelings of shame and self-loathing. But you don’t have to feel trapped forever. There is always, always hope to break free from addiction. Here are just five ways to get started:

1. Get professional help.

Without putting in the hard work to change the way your brain works, you won’t be able to overcome your addiction. Do not proceed to steps 2-5 without taking this critical first step! No one recovers from porn addiction in a vacuum. Addiction requires looking beyond yourself for help and guidance. Join a program. Talk to a counselor. Read some good books on the subject. At Neulia, we offer a full suite of programs to accommodate every schedule and every budget. Reach out today for confidential help that really cares. Don’t wait another minute.

2. Tell the truth.

One of the fastest ways to take away an addiction’s power is to bring it out into the light. Shame thrives in secrecy, but it dissolves in transparency. Choose a trusted confidant such as a counselor, pastor, or friend to open up with about your struggle. After that, tell your partner. These conversations are far from easy, but no one ever said recovery was easy. You can do hard things. It will be worth it in the end.

3. Change up your environment.

If you are tempted to return to your addiction because of your environment, change it. In the words of Elizabeth Gilbert, “If you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree.” There’s a reason that alcoholics do not work as bartenders (well recovering alcoholics anyway). You have to remove yourself from the tempting stimuli, which looks different for everyone. For you, it might mean:

  • Getting accountability software on all of your computers and your phone.
  • Getting rid of your home computer completely.
  • Switching to a flip phone.
  • Getting a different job.
  • Changing your group of friends.
  • Finding a new, more supportive work environment.

If you are serious about overcoming your addiction, you will have to make some big lifestyle changes. You can do this.

4. A healthy brain and a healthy body go hand-in-hand.

While you are recovering from any kind of addiction, you need to take care of yourself. Exercise as regularly as you possibly can. Eat really good, healthy, delicious food, and eat it often. Surround yourself with balanced, positive people. Get enough sleep. Just go to bed. Turn off your computer, charge your phone far away from your sleeping space, and get some rest. If your body is healthy, your brain is much more likely to follow suit.

5. Fill up your free time with things that make you happy.

This is the perfect time to pick up a healthy, fun new hobby. Always wanted to try mountain biking? Go for it. Want to train for a marathon? There’s no better time than the present. Want to learn how to paint? Hey, Bob Ross is on Netflix now! Remove yourself from situations of idleness, and fill that time with physical activity and creative pursuits.

If you’ve overcome an addiction, what were the best tips or tricks people shared with you?

Comments 4

  1. So I have had this addiction since I was 10 I have tried to stop but I end up back to where I was. Now I’m 24 and it’s Ruining my relationship with my fiancé and she has no trust in me. I want to show her that I can change this addiction and want to be with her and only her. I’m at the verge of losing everything with her. I just don’t want to do it for her I want to do it for me and our son. This is the first time ever I have told anyone. I want to get help please help me.

    1. Roberto, Great to hear from you. I see that you sent in for the information on my book, “Breaking the Cycle” as well as information on what we do here at Compulsion Solutions. We do telephone or Skype counseling with men from all over the world. Read the intro and 1st chapter of my book and the 2nd book (included in my return email), “A Couples Guide to Sexual Addiction.” They work. If you like what you read go to amazon.com and order them. If you want some individual help, too, give me a call and I can tell you how that works. It WILL work if you work it.

      Best, George Collins, Director
      (925) 932-0201

  2. So this some what helps but this may sound odd or discussting but according to my mother iv had this addiction since I was 8 and 14 going on 15 about to hit the 9th grade in new a new schoole and want to have new clean slate and I want fix myself but some of those things won’t work. what do suggest I do?

    1. Logan, Good to hear from you. Best idea would be for you to get a hold of my book, “Breaking the Cycle.” It’s easy to read and it really works. You can get it at amazon.com. Let me know how it works for YOU.

      Best, George Collins, Director

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